What should mothers do when they discover their child is special ?
On Women’s day our resident guest blogger joined in to present a mothers unique perspective
We recognise Women as an epitome of strength and determination and when she becomes a mother it is layered with love and care. In my formative years my mom portrayed these qualities in raising 4 children of whom I was the youngest and most pampered as I was born after 3 sons. Though I was the most loved and adored , my mom raised me into a very strong independent woman , no less than my brothers in taking charge of any situation. Years later when I was working and studying together , I had decided that I would self fund my marriage and mom readily stood by my side in this decision.
Post marriage I lived a role of a career woman, was never pushed to start a family both from my family or my husband’s. In fact my mom was quite proud of my achievements and encouraged me to do take my career to greater heights. But When the stork came calling I too decided to start my family. Excited yet nervous , I was juggling 2 roles in parallel , my work and my pregnancy. Like any other woman, I had started making time for myself to enjoy this beautiful 9 months long journey, weaving fond memories for this strong new life growing inside me. I cherished every moment of it , from the time he kicked, to the moment when he declined to show his face in the sonography imaging
Gradually these joyful moments added more meaning to my life and a mother was born. I started taking extra care of myself , my diet , my body, while managing my work as well. And finally the D-day arrived when I felt those tiny little fingers holding mine , smiling eyes winking at me, asking me to belong. Oh what a joyful day was that when I saw a bit of me in him. Holding him in my arms ,and still today the feeling remains the most precious thing I ever have.From that day on every moment became a joyful exhilarating adventure that is etched in my heart soul and mind forever.
Until a dreadful day came when I discovered that my child is different from others. He was experiencing changes within him that no other kid experiences . My visits to the docs intensified to understand what had happened to him suddenly,only to realise that he has a very rare condition for which only medicines (giving temporary action) and physiotherapist can help and the label of a special child came upon him. I was devastated and everything around me crumbled as time stood still, and I started asking myself
Why this should happen to me ?
What have I done in my past for this to happen?
Was it my destiny for which my mom raised me to be a strong woman?
Why doesn’t God see this and reverse the situation instantly?
What would happen to my career now ?
And the barrage of questions went on and on bombarding my spirit.
Hectic days and tearful nights was my life now with no joy and only pain to see my child regressing over time. With each passing month my anxiety and fears outgrew the joyful moments making me believe that I was responsible for this situation. It was hard for me to accept the fact my child is special, until one day I decided to change my perspective of the situation. I was taking charge of this again.
Many mothers I have met that have a special child would feel the same way. But the ability…the choice … the decision…to go beyond our fears and anxiety is what makes us realise who we are. To see the unbelievable is our faith and to make our child see through beyond his destiny is our job. That is why they say the most toughest job is that of a mother. So I changed my perspective of how I see my life . What I changed, helped me to overcome my challenges with my child
HOW TO DEAL WITH YOUR SITUATION
Well this is more of my experience what I shared here, I am sure your experience or situation is different but this blog aspires to encourage and motivate you to see your child in a more rewarding perspective because it not your child but you who is special and that is the reason God has chosen you amongst the many to make a your child a better individual.
So get up pat your back and just tell yourself that you are the chosen one by the almighty to do an exceptional thing … that is why you are SPECIAL.
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